In Loving Memory

Sheryl “Sherry” Hadley

September 7, 1947 - November 3, 2023

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Sheryl “Sherry” Hadley sadly passed away on November 3, 2023, at the age of 76. She was born to parents, Billy Harold and Hettie Lee Williams in Selma, Alabama.

Sherry graduated from A.G. Parrish High School in Selma and attended The W (Mississippi University for Women) and Auburn University and graduated from the University of Texas San Antonio in 1980. In 1968, she married Air Force Officer Marion “Jay” Messenger Jr. (Colonel, Retired). She and Jay had two children, Audris Kelly Messenger and Matthew Tyler Messenger, that both survive her.

During the late 1980s and early 1990s, Sherry was the Associate Executive Director for the American Lung Association in Northern Virginia. In 1991, she was one of three finalists interviewed and was ultimately selected as the Executive Director for the Airborne Law Enforcement Association (ALEA, now known as the Airborne Public Safety Association, or APSA) during their annual conference in Mobile, Alabama. On December 23, 1992, Sherry married Howard K. Hadley, a former ALEA Board Member and Tulsa Oklahoma Police Department Supervisor. For 15 years, they resided in a home on the Register of Historic Places in downtown Tulsa, Oklahoma. 

In 2006, following her husband’s new career to Niceville, Florida, she resigned as the APSA’s Executive Director and entered into a contractual agreement to manage the association’s meetings, events and tradeshows. The responsibilities of the arrangement were significantly reduced due to Covid-19 and a restructuring of the APSA conference. Her most recent conference was held in July 2023 in Orlando, Florida. Sherry loved working and building relationships with the members, vendors/exhibitors, and law enforcement officers involved with airborne law enforcement. 

In 2008, Sherry and Howard relocated to Fairhope, Alabama, where her husband had moved a company from Miami, Florida. Sherry truly enjoyed walking around the beautiful neighborhoods in Fairhope, and typically walked three to five miles almost every day. Sherry loved to travel and, since 2013, she had traveled on nine Viking River and Ocean cruises throughout Europe and the Mediterranean. In August of this year, she and Howard traveled from Paris to Prague on a Viking River cruise, and she unfortunately tested positive for Covid-19 upon her arrival home. In early September, she tested negative but continued to suffer from long-term Covid-19 symptoms followed by additional complications with her heart, and her other organs. Sherry continued to maintain her positive attitude during the last two weeks, in spite of her health issues, including going out to dinner, shopping, and even attending a Halloween party for Trick-or-Treaters.   

Sherry suffered cardiac arrest while peacefully laying in bed with her Kindle and her cat, Winston. She never recovered and passed away on the evening of November 3, 2023.

Sherry was a lover of animals and was an avid reader. She is survived by her children, Kelly and Matt; stepson, Kristopher Hadley; stepdaughter, Mikala Hadley; and her grandchildren. Sherry was well-loved by everyone who knew her and will be fondly remembered and missed.

As per Sherry’s request, no funeral or memorial service will be held.

Expressions of condolences for the family may be made at www.hughesfh.com. Hughes Funeral Home, 26209 Pollard Road, Daphne, AL, is assisiting the family.

4 Comments

  1. Sara Reed

    What a beautiful legacy. Sherry’s daughter was also her best friend. They had a mother/daughter bond that couldn’t be matched. Sherry and Howard are a love story to admire. Love and prayers to the family and friends who are grieving so much right now for a life gone too early.

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  2. Ann Turner

    My heart goes out to Howard and the family of Sherry. I enjoyed working with her in various association activities, especially the Tulsa Society of Association Executives. We kept in touch through the years via Facebook and email and I will miss her. She was a friend as well as colleague.

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  3. Todd Newton

    Our thoughts and prayers go out to her family during this tragic time. Sherry was always such a joy to work with and be around. I cannot count how many times she helped me in my career and challenging times in my life. She was a kind caring and thoughtful person plus she could balance that with that sweet southern girl charm to firmly get her point across. She ALWAYS spoke her mind and man did i respect her for that!!! After many deployments I would return to my job with Wescam and she welcomed me back with open arms – when she and Howard would greet me with such supportive words. She was such a fun loving person who would light up any room she entered. I met she and Howard in 1993, and they helped me navigate my way in ALEA along with many other mentors I had in the industry. Her grace and kindness is a loss to us all. Love, prayers and thoughts for all who miss her now and in the difficult days ahead of us

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  4. Todd Newton

    Our thoughts and prayers go out to her family during this tragic time. Sherry was always such a joy to work with and be around. I cannot count how many times she helped me in my career and challenging times in my life. She was a kind caring person plus she could balance that with that sweet southern girl charm to firmly get her point across. She ALWAYS spoke her mind and man did i respect her for that!!! After many deployments I would return to my job with Wescam and she welcomed me back with open arms – when she and Howard would greet me with such supportive words. She was such a fun loving person who would light up any room she entered. I met she and Howard in 1993, and they helped me navigate my way in ALEA along with many other mentors I had in the industry. Her grace and kindness is a loss to us all. Love, prayers and thoughts for all who miss her now and in the difficult days ahead of us

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